No matter where you are in your separation or divorce, my passion is to meet you where you are and engage you with respect, compassion, and understanding to help you restore your foundations
Divorces can be amicable or they can be messy. Road maps are available for the perfect wedding, but there are no road maps for the perfect divorce.
Divorcing at any time is a painful process and can be compounded a thousand times when one person is high-conflict.
A High-Conflict Divorce Consultant is a strategy partner assisting you in communication and documentation to prepare you for mediation, arbitration, or trial.
A High-Conflict Divorce Consultant works only with the non-high-conflict individual and helps prepare you to work with your lawyer, within the court system, or any other community partners you are working with. From documentation to emotional regulation, and meeting the best interests of any children involved, is the goal of training you in moving forward as peacefully as possible when attempting to co-parent with your ex-spouse.
Developing Co-Parenting plans may not always be an option due to the level of conflict; however, Parallel Parenting Plans and Conflict-Management Parenting Plans are often the better alternatives.
Mediation is often required before your case can be heard in the courts in British Columbia and across Canada.
Mediation is the preferred option in achieving a desired outcome for both parties, especially when children are involved.
Mediation services offer each party autonomy in making decisions that best suit their family’s needs after separation. As a neutral 3rd party, I will guide the process when communication has broken down. You remain in control of the outcome.
When your case is before a judge or an arbitrator, the outcome is up to them to make decisions on your behalf without knowing your unique family needs. Mediation offers all parties the space to decide what is right for them and their family.
Statistics show mediation has an 80% or higher success rate with sustainable plans, as the agreement is made by you and not a stranger.
Rosana is a High-Conflict Consultant, meaning mediation is an option even in high-conflict situations. Rosana typically employs shuttle mediation for high-conflict situations. You do not have to be in the same room or on the same screen (virtual mediations) for the mediation to progress. For virtual high-conflict mediations, you are provided a different sign-on link than the other party. Rosana consistently screens for power imbalances and risks of violence or future harm before commencing high-conflict services. Rosana moves at the pace identified by all parties with careful consideration to each circumstance.
Following a separation or divorce, you may face blending your family with a new partner. If your ‘ex’ is high-conflict, the challenges you and your new partner will face can be staggering and unexpected. Work with a Family Restructuring Consultant to learn strategies of managing the situation without sacrificing your new relationship or your blended family.
Changes in family dynamics have a significant impact on the growth and development of all children. You have the ability to determine the path of that growth with knowledge, training, learning, and skills.
With 20 years experience in child protection and child development training, Separation and Divorce Consulting has your children’s best interests first and foremost. Healthy parents are the key to developing healthy children.
As children experience divorce and blended families, their development is affected and their path forward can be confusing. Parenting is difficult at all stages, regardless of your family composition.
Having a Family Restructuring Consultant on board can be an invaluable resource, whether in a nuclear family, a blended family, or a separated family.
Access to my services is available across British Columbia, utilizing virtual options. In-person Consultancy and Mediation is available in the Vancouver Island area in British Columbia.
Since 2020, following the pandemic, online virtual services have become an important part of many people’s daily lives. Whether you are working from home or meeting with your family doctor, online services have been implemented to meet the needs of most people.
Accessing my services virtually brings the same level of compassion, understanding, and connection. For my mediation, virtual services open up better opportunities for mediating high-conflict matters. For in-person service through ‘shuttle mediation’, high-conflict mediation options are available, meaning you do not have to meet in the same room or risk running into each other outside afterward.
It is essential for online services that you are familiar with computer software programs, such as Microsoft Word, Excel, and Zoom, as well as signing online contracts and navigating basic computer functions.
Life does not stop for you at 5 pm on Friday. Many significant events occur in the evening and on weekends. My services are available when the crisis is happening, no matter where you are.