Menu
High conflict during a divorce is common and most often, costly. While avoiding high conflict may not always be possible, it is easier to navigate with the right team in place. Your legal team is there to ensure your legal rights are protected; however, quite often the legal team is tasked with channeling the emotions of their clients that come along with most divorce cases.
Contracting a High Conflict Divorce Consultant (HCDC) equips you with a strategy partner who can offset high legal fees and allow your lawyer to directly focus on your case without distractions. Too often lawyers and their aides are left to field non-legal calls, sift through large volumes of information that may not be relative to the case (emails/texts), re-write the materials submitted by their client (affidavits), and then prepare their clients for court or mediation.
A qualified HCDC is a strategy partner who can assist in preparing you for meeting with your legal team, provide you with strategies to channel heightened emotions, and bring clarity to the divorce and legal process. A qualified HCDC can assist you in understanding what is required for mediation or court, guide your communication with your divorcing partner, review documentation prior to submitting to your lawyer, and help you with the many other challenges you may face during your separation or divorce, for a fraction of the cost of your legal team.
The majority of high conflict cases involves only one high conflict individual that is intent on stalling the process with a mindset that they ‘must’ win. Post separation abuse is common, and can often be worse than when you were in the relationship, especially when children and high net worth is involved. Many times the word ‘narcissist’ is used to describe these high conflict individuals. Our company fully understands the complications that are realized when a divorce involves a high conflict individual. Our mission at Separation and Divorce Consulting is to provide you with the skills in managing the high conflict situation, provide education, and ultimately give you your peace of mind back.
At any time during the course of your separation, whether at the very beginning, in the middle, or toward the end, contracting an HCDC as a strategy partner can make the difference between giving your power (and money) away or taking it back!
No matter where you are at in the point of your separation or divorce, not everyone is in need of a consultant for the duration of their proceedings. Whether you are a former client, at the end of your divorce proceedings, have an order in place with a plan, or have questions after the fact, such as introducing your children to a new partner, an HCDC is qualified to provide you with direction and guidance on an hour by hour basis.
Persons coming away from a high conflict separation or divorce may often find the anguish doesn’t stop after the proceedings are completed. There may be a quiet stage and some room to breathe for a time; however, high conflict individuals often seek to continue the conflict well past the settlement, especially when children are involved.
If you find you are in a situation that is not complex in nature and are in need of a professional consultation regarding a specific circumstance, please contact us to help you put the puzzle pieces back in place.
An HCDC is not legally qualified to develop a legally binding co-parenting plan but can assist, with their expertise and knowledge, in the development of a plan that best suits your family’s needs. Your HCDC will know your case as well as your lawyer does, or perhaps even better.
In high conflict cases, a co-parenting plan may not be feasible; however, a parallel parenting plan may be more than possible.
Depending on your personal circumstances, a plan that meets the needs of your children, that is safe for all parties involved, and one that can be proposed to your lawyer, as well as opposing counsel or to the court can alleviate the contention while going through the divorce proceedings.